THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN SUCCESS AND FAILURE

Today, I'm excited to share and give some insight on the relationship between success and failure. They are apparently twin brothers. But hey, we are not trained or educated to live in paradox.

What I mean by paradox is that we are trained to live either in the positive or in the negative to live in what we call success or failure. So, our little mind our uncultivated, untrained, or ungrowing mind lives in attachment and preference.

What happens is that we begin to say, “Oh, I want to be successful, I don’t want to fail.” But I want to bring a different concept because I’ve been a failure, and I’ve also been successful as well. Most people will look at me as a very successful person now because they are measuring base on their own level, which is part of their success.

Let’s look at it fundamentally. We live in a fast world where we hurry because we don’t understand that “break” is part of the process to “break forth.”

Break is part of the process to “breakforth.” So, if you are not broken, you can’t break forth. This means that if “break” is part of “breakthrough,” then break is not entirely a failure, but a process that guarantees breakthrough.

When we are in pain, we create pleasure. But when we seek pleasure, we create absolute pain. This is because we are trying to control. Control means that when you say, “I wish to be successful,” you are controlling events rather than unfolding with events.

This is a paradox between failure and success. We are always in a state of seeking for an answer. We think that when you make money or get that appointment, that means you are successful. No. Don’t forget that the waiting time was also part of the success.

Now in this paradox, let me give an instance. The first time I did a particular business, it failed. It failed because, at that moment, I was not equipped mentally or with the right knowledge. You need a certain kind of knowledge, skills, mentorship, strength, and capacity which I did not not possess at that moment, so the failure was an agent to direct me to achieve the above features.

When you are building capacity, you don’t see defects. It is when you have built capacity — in the process of elevation — that you realize those moments are part of the structure and the journey that lead you into what we call success.

But first and foremost, we need to fail.

Patrick, are you crazy? Yes — you need to fail! If you don’t fail, you don’t acquire the necessary skill, mental capacity, depth, knowledge, and relationships you require.

This is how it started for me. After I failed in that business, it created a hole — a hunger, a curiosity. It created that place where you are searching, where you are naïve. And that naivety is the strength you require to push through barriers, limitations, and ceilings.

Let me give you an example. If you say you are successful and you live in that realm, you still need unsuccessful people to be part of your success. What does that mean? It means that if, for instance, I found my path and established an organization, I need people who have not yet found their path to be part of that organization.

If all of us are successful, then we can’t work for each other.

Have you seen that the paradox of success and failure shows they are twin brothers? You can’t separate them. The moment you live in separation, you live in denial. And honestly, many of us live in denial.

That’s why we are slaves to either success or failure — because both are just mental constructs, stories in your mind that you have not refined to find true balance. They coexist.

Let me give another instance. If you say you are beautiful, you need an ugly person to validate that claim. That’s why I said we live in measurement in comparison and time constraint.

Most times, when people are measuring their success, they are driven by time: “I’m now 20, 25, 30, 45; my mates are doing well.” You see? That’s comparison and measurement.

But to live a successful life, we must understand that if you don’t have failure, you cannot have the mentality to influence success. The mother of success is failure.

I recall that one American president once lost everything. He failed and went to his bankers. He said, “Let me tell you, it requires a failure to repurchase success. Because the lesson learned in this process of failure have given me more skills, knowledge, and capacity to make more informed decision and maintain a sharper mental strength and resilience".

If you give a fresh person a fresh opportunity who has not gone through failure, they will not have the discipline to pay back. What failure does is give you business discipline, business discernment, and business guidance to find a path that is solid, creative, tested, and formidable in structure.

Now, here’s how life runs. Three things govern us: attention, energy, and emotion.

If you give more attention to failure, you will fail — because attention carries business energy, and energy carries emotion. Until you reverse your attention, you will remain in the loop.

When you become successful, you must take the lens of success to view every activity that seems like a failure. You can’t see failure from the place of failure; otherwise, you will continue to fail. You must see failure from the lens of success to create paths that are formidable enough to produce desired results.

That is why your energy your passion matters. If you don’t have higher energy to impact on the lower base (which is failure), you won’t find momentum to move forward.

Emotionally, you must not use anger or depression to connect with failure. No you won’t rise. You need to find the momentum of joy and excitement.

The business ideology today says you must use a higher energy to impact on lower energy in order to rise. But here’s the problem when you focus too much on failure, you continue to fail. You must focus on the energy of success to impact your failure.

That’s what builds momentum.

Ladies and gentlemen, I can tell you love failure in order to find the momentum to drive your higher self. All of us have failed, and we love the fact that we failed. That’s what gave us the audacity, confidence, and inner conviction to drive toward our desired outcomes.

Meanwhile, live in paradox and create a wonderful self, even as you succeed in what you do.

Thank you.

My name is Dr. Patrick Uduma

I love to build minds. I love to help people stand on their feet, stay there, and succeed.